Gay Love????????? why is it that most gay relationships don't work?? im in 1 now and i really like (close 2 love) him but i just cant help but think that were not going 2 last because every other gay couple i know breaks up in less than a year or ends in infidelity. |
Hey Buck!
I know gay couples who have been together 20, 30, even 50 years -- namely two guys in their 60s who have been a couple since they were 13 years old!
But long-term gay couples aren't usually hanging out in bars and frequenting bathhouses. They are just living life together with generosity, faithfulness, kindness and joy.
I believe part of the problem is that, up until now, same-sex couples have not had a safe space and way to date, court, get to know each other in a culturally-accepted way, and then be recognized and blessed publicly as a couple.
For too long, gay and lesbian folk have had to live in hiding, in fear, in shadows, in uncertainty. It sometimes felt easier just to get little tastes of joy here and there by having sex with someone rather than risk the scorn of others who hated gay people. But that was not psychologically healthy. People need love, not just sex -- the security of being a couple and being affirmed in that.
Keep in mind that it took literally centuries before straight sex was tamed. Even the 9th century Most Christian Emperor Constantine not only had a wife, but also concubines! In the 14th century, one church council admitted that prostitution was necessary to keep everything from going into chaos. The Rennaissance and Shakespeare's England were quite "unzipped" in their attitudes toward sex; and the angry crowd who thought a Catholic prostitute was visiting King Charles II of England started cheering when they learned she was "Nell, the Protestant whore!" Hahahaha!
Following the stern and Puritanical time of the 17th century, it still was not until the fiercely repressed Victorian Era of the 19th century that society as a whole buckled down and expected young people to be virgins until they were married.
As you know, that ideal has been unraveling since the 1960s, but at least straight couples have a socially-recognized pattern of dating, courtship, engagement and marriage to enter into -- but gay couples have had nothing to support them. They have had to rely only on their love for one another without any social support.
I believe we are in a time of tremendous change in that regard. States and nations are approving same-sex marriage and civil unions. More churches are approving and blessing same-sex couples. And unlike their wounded elders, many young gay teens and twenty-somethings actually WANT to get married or blessed, settle down, adopt a guy, and live as a real family.
As more and more same-sex couples flourish and are open and accepted in our culture, the more enouraged youngsters will be to realize that their lives, too, may be whole and blessed, and that they may thrive. |
Why do gay guys love britney so much and why is she considered a gay icon? ok im gay and i love britney's music, she is the artist with most plays on my itunes but why do so many gays love her and why is she considered a gay icon?
i mean she hasnt really been open supportive of gays like madonna,xtina or gaga..
but britney's most loyal fans are usually gays so why is this? is it because britney's voice is heaven for gay ears? |
| I use to like her...when I was a teenybopper but now I can't stand that kinda music now. I guess because she is similar to Madonna (who many gay men adore) in some ways they love her. I am a 24 year old gay man and I cannot stand britney, madonna, christina and gaga. |
What are some classic novels and books about gay love or homosexuality? Any really good books that you would suggest to read about gay love or any story related to homosexuality?
You know, a book that would make a young gay/lesbian individual feel less alone with how they feel. |
Some classics:
Stone Butch Blues
The Well Of Loneliness
Hello, I Lied
Giovanni's Room
Maurice
Kiss Of The Spider Woman
Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit
Rubyfruit Jungle
I fell in love with "Stone Butch Blues" . . . it's incredible and I think everybody should read it. |
What is a great gay romantic love movie? I just saw Brokeback Mountain and it was so romantic. I felt so bad about how they wanted to be together so much but can't be together. Is there any gay romantic movie that you know would give you that feeling of love. Please I need a great gay love movie. Thanks! |
Touch of Pink is great. Indian/english romance with the ghost of Cary Grant.
Wolves of Kromer is very sweet, which is odd, because it is a gay movie about werewolves.
Mambo Italiano has a really sweet romance in it.
And best of all, Ang Lee's The Wedding Banquet. Alas, I have not reviewed it yet, so no link.
Try those, and enjoy. |
What are some good gay love story movies to watch? I love gay love stories such as Brokeback Mountain and Get Real. I was wondering if anyone had any other recomendations? That would be awesome! Thanks. [= |
| The Trip was really good. |
Gay love :)? Hey you guys what do you think about this video? this really broke my heart love between 2 young boys
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ekPwI1PMx… |
| DAMNNNN THAT MADE ME TEAR UP <_< ***** ITZ THE GREATEST VIDEO EVER |
Comments on the controversy over the gay love scene in the new video game? There is a gay love scene in a game put out by Bioware. People are going crazy both positive and negative. What do you think? I think it is pretty frickin sweet!!
PS You can find it on youtube. |
They had a similar controversy surrounding the possible lesbian sex scene in Mass Effect between the player and an Asari. What bothered me about that game is that, while they had the option to have a female/female relationship and sex scene, there was no option for anything male/male, which seemed like a real cop-out- like the whole double-standard of "lesbians are hot but gay guys are grosssss." It's good to hear that Bioware has listened to this and made a male/male option available to the player.
In a game where half the gameplay is to make choices and lead an in-game life of sorts, it's refreshing to see a developer add an option for the player to decide his/her character's sexuality. |
How can I start a gay love story book? As title says how can I start a book about a gay(Guy) freshman crushing on a Gay(Guy) senior which later on, they both fall in love with each other. How can I start it, I completely have no clue how to start it off. and they dont have....u know what, its a romance novel not a lust novel. Please give me some advice or some guidelines on how to start it |
At the start, they could both have no friends because no one like them because they're gay. And one lunch time, one of them could see the other getting bullied and go over to help him. As they gaze into each others eyes they realize that they're in love.
Hope I helped :) |
What are some good teen gay love movies? im in the mood to watch teen gay love stories but all i could find was beautiful thing. are there any more out there? |
| but i'm a cheerleader, its pretty funny and i remember watching a movie when i was younger about two teenage british boys one of them was a soccer player, but i cant remember the name of it. |
Is there anyone know any good books talk about gay love story? im looking for some gay love story books to read
does anyone know any? |
There's one on the web and it's called: "Unlikely", here's the link where you can read it: draeconin.com/tales
If you can't find it, you might search through www.archive.org/index.php
They sometimes have things that have been taken down elsewhere.
Actually, just checked it. It's there on the 2007 archive.
And, if you don't want to read a story and instead you wanna watch a movie, then look for "Get Real" on youtube. |